#926 Friendship

Novels and films have always romanticized friendship,same as it has done with love. For me friendship is not like ” tere jaisa yaar kahan, kaha aaise yaraana”. No it’s not all the friends we see on social media like Facebook and twitter. It’s not all those who we meet in our different walks of life. It’s that one special or at most a very few special ones. Friendship is more of a Space than just a relationship. It’s a space for me to be myself in this world of pretense and hypocrisy. Its here that i can authentically express my true self with no fear of losing the person or getting misunderstood. I can be selfish, I can be manipulative , I can be whatever I am and yet get accepted. Like an unconditional acceptance. It’s a space to feel protected and taken care off no matter what comes in life. It’s also about taking complete responsibility and owning this relationship. It’s almost everything as in love except it’s logical ( and mostly tragical) end of getting married, and fortunately so.
When my career, my relationships, my marriage, my health, my finances, my life doesn’t seem to work…there is this one special person who stands by me and gives me the confidence that it will be All Right.

Jaane Kyun Dil Jaanta Hai.., Tu Hai To, I’ ll Be All Right… AlittleBIGthing 🙂

#928 love marriage

Love marriage

“We didn’t allowed marriage to spoil our friendship” is the famous line of the famous duo Javed Ahktar and Shabana Azmi. Marriage has that potential to spoil friendship , to spoil love. As Natasha Badhwar writes “Marriage is an accident-prone adventure. It gets hijacked, kidnapped, derailed, distracted and exhausted. Marriage can become a pile of resentments.” The dynamics of marriage is not just about two people, it’s about two families and two cultures. More damagingly it’s about two egos. If its a structure to bring togetherness then that togetherness itself is a platform for over-exposure of each other. A stage to let expectations lead to frustrations. But being married doesn’t keep you away from LOVE, only if you could clearly distinguish it. Love is innocent and need nurturing. It needs hand holding till it can start walking. Especially at times when the legs are weak and floor is hard. Love is when you kiss on HER forehead when she is in deep sleep. Love is walking with her in one umbrella , laughing with her watching a movie . Love is fixing the cable connection so she doesn’t miss on her favorite TV serial. Marriage is not mandatory (actually not necessary) …love is.

a little big thing!!!